it must be in the water

Fri 12/8/07 - I found out that 2 of my friends are pregnant and they are due in July also. It must be something in the water.

Funny quote of the day: While I was talking to a friend about granny panties, "Tell him (Andre), they make you happy, and a happy you is more likely to get out of them and make a happy him"

To Test or not to Test?

I've been bombarded with the options for prenatal genetic testing. Are these tests really necessary? If they did find something, what's the use in knowing now versus the day of delivery?

the prenatal pills are making me nausea

Thu 12/6/07 - I found out that my prenatal pills are making me more nausea. I'm taking Flintstones vitamins. How funny is that? And why is it that no one told me this could happen.

I can eat without getting sick

Sun 12/2/07 - I ate dinner today and didn't get nausea afterwards for the first time in weeks. Yeah!! Things are looking up.

First ultrasound

Wed 11/29/07 - First ultrasound. We saw the heartbeat and the little sucker was jumping around a lot. We must have a football player on our hands. Who knew there were so many pre-natal tests that can be run. So now we are debating whether we should have the tests or not. How much information is too much information?

Thanksgiving week

Fri 11/23/07 - Thanksgiving week...nausea has subsided and the exhaustion has set in big time. I feel really weak and tired all the time, even with 8-9 hours of sleep. Plus Andre's snoring adds to my restlessness on some nights...thank God for earplugs. I was worried that I would not feel like eating on Thanksgiving, but my appetite has really picked up this week. I haven't exercised in about 3 weeks and I am noticeably gaining weight, but then again, I don't miss my treadmill all that much.

We told the family yesterday at Thanksgiving dinner. Keeping this a secret was very hard. Everyone was excited. We are blessed to have a good support circle.

Best quote of the day - "...the exhaustion will end when the kid goes to college..." - Dr. Turner

Here comes the fatigue

Mon 11/12/07 - The nausea is going and the dizziness and fatigue is setting in. I literally can lay on the couch all day. My emotions are going crazy. I started crying while watching Oprah interview the Osmonds.

Since I can't get comfortable or sleep well in our bed, I decided to try out the spare bedroom tonight. And since that room doesn't have curtains or blinds, my wonderful husband put some paper over the windows to block out the sunlight. He did this without me asking...now that's a special man.

Child vs Puppy

Thu 11/8/07 - On top of feeling nausea all day, I wake up with back pain. This may be due to the new bed we got over the weekend. If I keep feeling like this, we will not have anymore children and we'll get a puppy. We are trying to figure out a cute way to tell everyone that I have bun in the oven.

Why do they call it morning sickness when it lasts all day (and night)

Tue 11/6/07 - Morning sickness started. I don't know why they call it morning sickness when it last all freakin' day. I wish I would just throw up to feel better, but nothing comes up. It just marinates in my stomach. The term 'morning sickness' must have been defined by some man.

I pee-ed on the stick

Fri 11/2/07 - I pee-ed on the stick. The lines were really not that pink...more like mauve or desert rose, so I made an appt with my doc to get a pregnancy test. She confirmed that Andre had gotten me knocked up. I wasn't excited as I thought I would be. I felt more worried that I could do something to screw up the baby, like drinking the glasses of wine I had before I knew I was pregnant. We have to wait to Nov 28 for my first prenatal exam, that's when we know how far along I am. I don't want to tell anyone until after that exam. Keeping this secret will be hard since everyone will be at our home for Thanksgiving. Plus, I went to Nicki's daugther's 1 year birthday party and several people asked me when we were going to have one.

God's Timinig

This morning was quite interesting. I had to make a run to the new house to deliver a mirror for the bathroom. While at the house, my car was blocked in my construction vehicles. It took them about 5 mins to move the vehicle, all the while, I am looking at the clock because I didn't want to be too late for work. They finally move the truck and on my way back to 540, I noticed a lady walking across the bridge on Buffaloe that crosses 540. I also see a car disabled, which I figured was her car. So I stopped and asked if she needed a ride. She hopped in and told me she had ran out of gas. So I took her to the gas station, where I waited for her to purchase a gas container and gas. I drove her back to her car and I proceeded on to work.

It was God's timing that I got held up at the new house for just the right amount of time so that I would get to her car at that exact moment. Now that is God's timing.

He was surprised...

Now this is must see TV
http://youtube.com/watch?v=R1urrN-1_PA

He had no clue.

How To Break iTunes DRM

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R.I.P N-Word

Read this article
Comedian Gets the Hook for Using N-Word

Eddie Griffin got the boot after cussing and using the N-Word. Good!! I'm glad to see people not tolerating the use of this word. I feel this word is not a term of endearment, but a it is disrespectful and oppressive.

Going back to work :--)

I am blessed to have a job waiting for me. I am blessed that I have the ability to get up and go to work. But the Thursday night before my first day back to work, I was dealing with a great deal of anxiety. Why? I don't know. Maybe because I know God has a bigger plan for me. I was actually nervous about having to deal with people again and leave that much needed break. The time off allowed me, not only to catch up on my tv watching, but to think about 'me'. I realized that I was getting caught up in the rat race and the finish line was no where in site.

I started listening more to Joel Osteen (www.joelosteen.com) and Joyce Meyer (http://www.joycemeyer.org/). They are not your traditional, in your face, lay hands on you, sweating profusely southern baptist preachers; but they do preach and teach the Word. I highly recommend giving them a try. Don't get me wrong, I like Bishop TD Jakes, but, in my opinion, don't allow tradition or race keep you from getting the Word (plus TD Jakes' tv show isn't readily available anymore). Amen.

Recovery Week 2: How much TV can I possibly watch?

This is the first week that I've been home alone. It's nice to have some alone time. I haven't been cleared to start driving again, so I've been reduced to watching 20 year old movies and reruns of shows that I've seen a dozen times (SATC).

I find enjoyment in free time where I am not worried about meetings, emails, rush hour, and exercising. And of course, having to cook for my husband...scratch that last part.

I started a list to keep a log of the TV shows and movies that I have watched during my recovery.
See my blog for this list. Click Here.

I find that sleeping is a luxury. I seem to can't sleep past 8am on any given day. My body will still wake up early. Go figure.

TV/Movies I've Watched During my Recovery

1. Sex and the City (of course)
2. Oprah (of course)
   
3. Family Guy
4. Living Single
   
5. Martin
6. Big Love
   
7. Different World
8. Home Alone 2
9. Breakin' 2: Electric Boogalo
10. Singin' in the Rain
11. The Toy
12. Fantastic Four 2
13. Weird Science
14. Grease
15. Grease 2
16. Splash
17. Cocktail
18. I'm Gonna Git You Sucka
19. Lean on Me
20. The Money Pit
21. Parenthood
22. The Usual Suspects
23. Wildcats
24. E! True Hollywood Stories: George Michael
25. E! True Hollywood Stores: Mo'Nique
26. Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves
27. 9 to 5
28. Romancing the Stone
29. Pride
    

to be continued...

A day in the life of Tabby's world...

A day in the life of Tabitha Sanders...

7:02a: I woke up to early, tired to go back to sleep
8:34a: rolled out of bed with anticipation that Tabitha will be on time to pick me up at 9:30 so that we could get some breakfast and then head off to the mall...God had a different plan for us today
9:49a: Tabitha picks me up and then proceeds to back up into the storm drain and busts her tire
9:58a: I call AAA, the tell me the roadside assistance guy will be here by 11:19
10:03a: we debate over whether to cook some breakfast or call in an order to IHOP, neither of us want to cook anything, we decide to eat a FiberOne bar to hold us until we eat in about an hour...how long could it really take to get a new tire?
11:19a: the AAA guy has not shown up, I call AAA again, they tell me he'll be here in 20 minutes
11:43a: I called AAA again b/c the AAA hasn't shown up
11:53a: he finally shows up
12:14p: the AAA guy tells us that none of his lug wrenches will fit Tabitha's tire, so we decided to tow it to Sam's club tire center
12:20p: the AAA guys tells us that he has to get authorization to use this tow truck, so I have to call AAA again to make the request to tow the car (a bunch of red tape)
12:37p: we are finally on our way to Sam's, I share Tabitha's macaroni and cheese story with the AAA guy, named Michael, which he found very funny
12:58p: arrive at Sam's club to find that the one tire that fits Tab's car is too expensive, we decide to get the Sam's tire guy to put the donut on her car and go to another tire place
1:36p: while the donut was put on the car, we call several tire places to do price comparisons, we found the Firestone on New Hope Rd had a good deal
2:33p: keep in mind we haven't eaten all day, so we are starving by the time the Firestone guy is finished, then we head off to IHOP
3:22p: we eat...a lot, i ate so much I almost fell asleep at the table
3:31p: we leave to run some errands, bypassing the mall since I was tired and Tabitha hadn't slept in 24 hours
5:01p: Tabitha drops me off at home...it feels like I've been at work all day

Another day in the life of Tabitha S. Taylor...for those of you that know her, this is just an ordinary day.

What I Learned from Planning my Wedding

Here is what I learned from planning my wedding...

1. People really get upset when children not allowed to attend the wedding and the reception
2. Make sure the wedding party orders the right size dresses and tuxedos
   
3. Its irritating when people ask to bring more than one guest to the engagement party when the were instructed not to
4. Its irritating when people ask to bring more than one guest to the reception
5. Groomsmen will actually wait until the last minute to get fitted for their tuxedos
6. Can't make the wedding party stay in a free hotel room
7. Families get attitudes with each other very quickly
8. Learning how to manage 1000 things at once
9. Email is the best invention ever
10. My co-workers don't like to hear about my wedding plans EVERYDAY
11. I can send email, an instant message, and talk on the phone all at the same time
12. Ordering green beans in a hotel costs too much
13. Ordering soda at a hotel costs too much
14. Nobody cares how much food costs at a wedding except for the people who are paying for it
15. My father has constantly reminded me that his wallet is now closed for business as of April 2, 2005 @ 2:31pm.
16. You really can't please everyone...especially FAMILY.
17. The most commonly heard excuse for not RSVPing on time..."I can't find the invitation"
18. The most commonly heard phrase from people who did not RSVP on time..."What day is the wedding?"
19. When hiring vendors, cheap does not mean better quality. You get what you pay for.
20. I didn't realize my co-workers missed me so much while I was gone
21. No one has a clue as to how much time and effort went into this wedding, but me and my parents...yes, not even the groom
22. We should have got married in Jamaica!!
23. I had an fabolous time at the ceremony and the reception
24. My mother is always right
25. This wedding is about you, so do what makes you happy, screw everyone else. This event will only happen once (hopefully)

Recovery Week 1: Why can't I relax?

Recovery Week 1: It's been a week since the surgery. I'm still sore, but its not severe. I stopped taking the pain meds on Wednesday because the nausea was unbearable. I would rather be in a little pain than in a little pain plus nausea.

I've received much appreciated support via phone calls, emails, and in person. I've been blessed with a good circle of friends.

I love dem Tarheels....

Disclaimer: The following blog contains material that describes my surgery experience in detail. I right this blog as a history for me, myself, and I.

Night before Surgery(Wed): I've been nervous ever since my doctor set my surgery date a month ago. I've been very emotional at times because this is serious. They are cutting my gut open. Life gets a new perspective when your life is in someone else's hands. Soon my fibroids (named Laverne and Shirley) will be gone. Praise God for favors and a good sleeping pill.

Before Surgery (Thu): I had a good prayer circle with me while we waited an extra 3 1/2 hours to start the surgery, due to a delay in a previous surgery. It was a long day considering I hadn't eaten since 8pm the previous night. We held hands and my phenomenal Aunt Zine prayed over my surgery....I had a unexpected calmness come over me. I went to the pre-op room to get the IV started. The tried once in my right hand, but apparently I have what's called 'rolling veins', meaning the needle missed the vein. They tried again in my left hand...missed the vein, then again in the right hand....missed the vein. Yep, these hurt. They finally decided to just give me the gas and do the IV once I'm passed out. Note to self: skip the IV and just get the gas first. The last thing I remember was some smelly gas, and then I was in la-la land.

After Surgery (Thu): Laverne and Shirley have left the building. It was nice to be drugged up. It was weird to be out of control, even for a short period of time. The catheter was an experience...I wasn't sure to push the pee or not push the pee...surprise, surprise...no pushing needed. Lots of visitors and much appreciated support. This was the first time in my life that I can remember not having an appetite...I finally found a diet that works.

Fri: I couldn't really sleep last night. I never really could get comfortable due to the soreness. But it was comforting to know that my loving husband was sleeping on a cot next to my bed. He's a sweetheart and a true blessing...I can't wait to eat some of this cooking, this hospital food is terrible. Although, the chicken broth was soothing on my scratchy throat as a side effect from the breathing tube used during surgery. The staples in my belly look crazy. They literally look like staples used for paper. I'm still sore, but the drugs are good. The fabulous bouquet of roses from my dad was a nice pick me up.

Sat: I really didn't get good sleep, but Andre was still hanging in there with me on the cot. He's a trooper. I was able to eat real food today, although I couldn't finish most of the meals. UNC HealthCare had decided to they had enough of my money, so they discharged me that afternoon. Most of the nursing staff was cool except for a few employees, but overall my hospital stay was acceptable. Got to love dem' heels.

Should college basketball players leave school early for the NBA?

Being educated is something that can never be taken from you. You earned that degree, its yours, no one can deny you that. Get the degree first, then play ball. Who cares if you make millions of dollars in the NBA, if you can't even balance your checkbook.